Books and Bondage: My Take on the FSOG Discussion

This past week I have been seeing a lot of people post articles and/or opinions about the movie adaption of 50 Shades of Grey. I guess this will be my two cents. I first read the books when they were originally published. I can't remember why I did or what my motivation was... I think people were just talking about them a lot and Jimmy was probably in busy season at the time (Oh gosh, I went there ;) ). Most of the time I will pick up a popular book that people can't stop talking about just to see what I think. I remember being intrigued when I first read them. The writing is honestly not great and the characters were annoying at times. It is hard to invest in a book (or books) when the basic premise is argument, orgasm, argument, orgasm, orgasm, love, argument. That sort of thing starts to wear on a person, and yet, like so many other women, I couldn't put the book down. Then, like a fiend, I go and purchase the next two books in the series. Who is this person I have become? Do I secretly like this? This story of spanking and tying up, toys and "pleasurable pain" (I don't really dig the pain part... I am a delicate flower and have to protect these petals... Ok, fine, I'm just a baby). I think the interesting thing about these books is that they got a whole heap of women talking about what they want. Is that a bad thing?

So, why now that these books are coming to the big screen are people upset? I don't remember people being this upset when the books became popular (they honestly could have been, my memory is crap). I've seen people post about how this movie glorifies violence against women and sex trafficking. The sex trafficking issue I have a slight problem with. No where in any of these three books does that topic even come up. Never. I feel like critics are trying to throw every sexually perverse topic they can tackle at this movie just to make their point.

The two main characters in FSOG are Anastasia (Ana) and Christian. I briefly want to point out that Ana knowingly enters into a relationship with Christian. A dominant/submissive relationship that he drafts up and she agrees to (with some stipulations and changes). He lays it all out there and tells her what she is getting in to. Is it a pretty messed up relationship? Absolutely. Is Christian slightly screwed up because he finds pleasure in causing Ana some pain? Um, yes. Do I wish Ana had more of a backbone? Sure. But she is a grown woman who knowingly brings pain upon herself. I'm not saying its right, I'm just saying its consensual.

At the end of the day, these are books and it is a movie. I agree that the they are basically junk entertainment. I'm not debating that. Do I need to sit through two hours of kinky sex? Probably not. Will I? I honestly haven't decided yet. But moms, please stop writing articles about how FSOG is teaching your sons to mistreat women. A book won't cause a man to disrespect or hit his wife. That's where your love and guidance when raising him should conquer. Lets raise our sons to love and cherish women. Lets raise our daughters to be strong, confident ladies. Lets stop wasting our breath arguing. I definitely don't expect everyone to agree with me, and I don't write this post to start arguments. It is simply my blog and my opinion. Let me know what you think.

Until next time,

Kelly