This past week I have been doing a lot of thinking, and reading, and thinking again. A lot changed for all of us last week. A new president was sworn in. Women and men took to the streets by the hundreds of thousands to let their voices be heard.
I'll admit I tend to be a backseat observer to most things. It is one of the biggest reasons I love to write. I'm an introvert. I get shy (unless I'm with the people who know me best). I like to watch and listen. So that's what I've been doing. Reading, listening, and trying to put into words what I think of our changing world.
Here it goes.
I am a white woman. Which means, I understand what it is like to be seen as less-than, or weaker because I was born with lady bits, but not so much that I can relate to my friends of different races, or my friends of the LGBTQ community.
And I own that. I want to learn more, and I want to take up their plight, but the fact is, I will never fully be able to embrace their pain, discomfort, and fear. One of my best friends once told me that she fears her future sons walking down the street. And that has always stuck with me. It isn't fair, and it isn't right.
My entire career was also in the field of nursing. A predominantly women-driven industry. So I never experienced the feelings of being paid less than my male counterparts (at least, I don't think I did), and I never felt like I had to prove myself to get ahead of my male colleagues.
That doesn't for one single minute, though, mean I don't think women should have equal pay. Come on world, its 2017. I can kick-ass and take names just as well as Johnny, Jack, and Jim. So pay me as such.
I appreciate the Women's March. I think it is amazing that almost 500,000 (In D.C.) women and men got together because they believe in something. They wanted their voices heard. And they should be heard. Trump has said some disgusting, misogynistic things about women. I truly believe he is sexist, and nothing good can come of that for us ladies.
I believe we need to do something about our rape culture. Just last week, a Sky News anchor named Stephen Dixon discussed if drunk women wearing short skirts were in not some way responsible for their sexual assault. That women somehow provoke their attackers by being drunk and dressing confidently.
"Sorry judge, I just couldn't help it. She was so sexy and so drunk." No, fuck-wit. It is never a woman's fault for being abused.
Or let's talk about how a star Stanford swimmer only served three months in jail for the sexual assault of a woman behind a dumpster. The reason for the short sentencing: the judge felt that prison would have too severe an impact on Brock Turner's life. What about the impact his actions had on the victim?
We as a society need to end violence against women. Here and all over the world. Stop making excuses. Stop blaming the victim.
I believe everyone has a right to their own opinion. I believe everyone has the right to be heard. I do not think our society has a problem with that. Sheesh. Some people need to stop and listen more (but that's just my opinion). I wish that people could have more understanding, thoughtful and engaging conversations, rather than screaming and yelling. Or throwing shit through windows. We are never all going to agree with one another. The point is... that's okay.
I believe people should be taken care of. IF they help themselves and are functioning members of society. I believe in helping people when they are down. I believe in taking another's burden. I don't believe in free handouts.
I believe that every fetus should have a fighting chance. Yep, I'm pro-life. And we can discuss that if you'd like (Although if you tell me I hate women because of this belief, conversation over). I also believe that women should have access to birth control.
I believe every person should be free to love whoever they want. I believe they should be able to marry, have children, and live safe and happy lives. I believe that is their right, as it is mine.
I'm not going to sit here and spew peace signs, say we all need to give one another a chance. I'm not going to judge and I hope in return I am not judged. Life is messy, it's hard. I have my hurts, you have yours. I just want people to talk. I want people to be more understanding. I want to look at my fellow man and say, "I don't quite agree with that, but I respect your opinion."
I think a lot of great conversations are happening in the world. I think a lot of detrimental ones are happening also.
Let's be a part of the great ones, shall we?
What are your thoughts on our world today?
Until next time,