Happy Tuesday, friends!
I’m back this week with another list item from Moorea Seal’s The 52 Lists Project. Each week offers a new and exciting list for me to ponder, hum and haw and fill out. Some lists come easy, others make me sit and think.
List 5 really got the ‘ol brain whirring to life. How often have we been posed the question: “Where do you see yourself in 5, or 10, years?”
The question almost always accompanies a job interview. But that potential employer doesn’t care about your personal life, they want to know how you see yourself growing in their company. How you see yourself growing in your particular industry.
Has anyone ever asked you the question from a personal point of view? It hadn’t happened for me until the 52 List Project. Except it was worded like this: “What would you like your life to look like in 10 years?”
The power is all mine. What do I see? Where do I want to be? I picked up my pencil and really thought about my answers. I wrote down the first five things that came to me. I wrote from a place of truth and a longing for contentment.
These are my answers.
-I am a published author with multiple books to my name. Books I am proud of. Books that resonated with people. Books that made them feel. Made them think, laugh, cry. I use my books as a sounding board to shed light on people’s struggles. They offer a safe place to land in a crazy world. They offer an escape from the complexities of life.
-I am living in comfortable chaos in a home of our own creation. We have a large kitchen, the one I always dreamed about, where I love to cook and do so often. But some nights we still chomp down on greasy egg rolls dipped in cherry red sweet and sour sauce. We have a large front porch overlooking the water where I spend hours clacking on my keyboard or lost in a novel. The house is rustic but cute. It is cozy and welcoming. We have a Great Dane and a miniature pig who are the best of friends. We name them Harry and Lloyd because even after all this time, Jimmy and I still die laughing watching Dumb & Dumber.
-We might have kids. Kids that are loving and kind, but on occasion drive us nuts. Kids with auburn hair and toothy grins. Kids with a giving heart who get to grow up in a world free of hate and oppression. A world where leaders of our great nations make sound and decent decisions based on the betterment of mankind and not on who is lining their pockets. A world where all races and sexes are equal. A world of happiness.
-I have a marriage that continues to laugh and be silly. That talks through the hard stuff with listening ears and an open mind. That is romantic and playful. That doesn’t get bogged down by the nuances of life. That loves even when it is angry, sad or disappointed. That grows even when it wants to wither and flee.
-I am surrounded by family and lasting friendships. Sunday night dinners around a long, wooden dining room table. Frosty beer mugs and smooth Pinot Noir. An abundance of respect and love. Saturday night game nights. Double dates to a concert in town or a new brewery to try. Deep conversations, comforting hugs, uproarious laughter.
Of course, other things come to mind when I think of how I’d like my life to look in 10 years. But these were the first items that popped into mind. I was pleasantly surprised not a single one had to do with my appearance or weight. They all centered around love and happiness. Success in what I love doing. A house built from love. Family, children, friends.
This list reminds me not to get shit on by the harshness of everyday living. To focus on the little things that can get me to the life laid out above. It won’t be easy, no. But I sure would like to try.
What would you like your life to look like in ten years?
And what can you do today to make sure your dreams come true in the future?
Until next time,